What is Circle of Security Parenting?
Circle of Security® Parenting™ is a parent-reflection program offering the core components of the evidence-based and internationally acclaimed Circle of Security program.
Founders of the Circle of Security Glen Cooper, Kent Hoffman and Bert Powell have worked together since 1985 and were friends for a decade before that.
Co-parenting for Your Kids is proud to be able to bring you the Circle of Security as a 2 weekend in person group training OR as a 1-on01 coaching of 8 sessions over 12 weeks OR 4-Day in person Retreat at a 5 Star Luxury Resort. There’s a format to suit every budget and every family.
Discover how to create a secure attachment with your child which will lead to a deeper connection and greater ability to manage problematic behaviour. The program presents video examples of secure and problematic parent/child interaction, healthy options in care giving, and animated graphics designed to clarify principles central to Circle of Security. This Parenting Program implements decades of attachment research in an accessible step-by-step process for use in group settings, individual private sessions and even as a 4 day luxury Retreat.
Whether you’re a new parent wishing to do the very best you can for your newborn, you’ve a strong willed and headstrong wild-child-toddler, a primary school aged child who seems to get more difficult to manage each day, or a teenager you’re worried will stray so far away from you that you’ll no longer have any influence over them at all, there’s something for each of us in the Circle of Security Parenting Program. As an experienced facilitator,
Kirsty Petersen will support you to understand secure attachment so you can enjoy deeper connections with your kids.
How Can We Help You?
Individual, personalised sessions
Our children are the people who are most important to us and sometimes it’s really hard to talk about our parenting struggles, fears and worries. If you would prefer not to attend a group workshop, you can have the full attention of the facilitator, as well as the flexibility of booking a time each week that suits you, with individual, personalised sessions.
This program runs for 12 weeks with payments debited weekly. $350 x 12 weeks.
Kirsty Petersen – Circle of Security Parenting Program Facilitator, Family Mediator, Conflict Coach, Author and best of all – “Mum!”
Your Circle of Security Parenting
Program Facilitator
I have been practising Circle of Security parenting program principles for many years. As an experienced program facilitator, I support families all over the world, to deepen their connection with their children and change the way they manage problematic and challenging behaviour.
It doesn’t matter if your child is newly born, or well into their teens, whether you’re here because of your first child, your youngest child or a step child, the Circle of Security Parenting Program will change the way you interact and engage with all your children – even if they’re already great kids!
Not only have I seen this program absolutely change the relationship between many parents and children, I am constantly in awe of how it changes the relationship I have with my own children.
What will attending this workshop do for you?
Respond to difficult behaviours in ways that create resilience
Cease the battles of 'will'
Identify your child's emotional needs
Recognise and understand your child's emotional needs
Improve your child's self esteem, school readiness and relationships with others
Support your child's independence
Support your child's need for closeness and intimacy
Promote the development of empathy in your child
Understand why sometimes your child's behaviours cause strong reactions in you
Discover a new way to handle your child's emotional 'meltdowns'
Discover a new approach to take when your child 'acts out'
What Our Clients Say
Caron
I attended a Co-parenting workshop and Kirsty was brilliant in helping everyone there deal with a difficult and at times traumatic, period of our lives. She had real-life strategies for dealing with communication issues, parenting, and of course.. the relentless conflict. Kirsty helped me feel confident about the future. Kirsty clearly has so much knowledge, training, and experience in these issues, and the fact she has experienced co-parenting issues in her own life meant she knew exactly what we are going through and wasn’t just preaching from a textbook, she is amazing at what she does and I can’t thank you enough, Kirsty. PS: I have already started reading the book you suggested.
Benny
Kirsty demonstrated professionalism and impartiality.
It was clear to me that Kirsty’s main priority was working with each party to achieve common ground in order to reach an outcome.
Kirsty was not shy to call a spade a spade and I appreciated this honesty.
The mediation session was challenging and took a number of hours more than what was included in the fee however Kirsty encouraged discussions to continue and eventually an agreement was reached.
Belinda
I was in a situation with my ex where we couldn’t agree on anything. Every communication was difficult.
With support from Kirsty, I was able to totally change the situation to a point where we can reach an agreement about everyday things as well as important issues.
We still have moments, but I now have the skills to facilitate our communication and I’m no longer anxious at the mere prospect of having to discuss something.
Kirsty-Anne
Kirsty has helped me navigate a very complex situation concerning my now adult daughter and a very hostile situation with my ex. Her advice and genuine desire for the best outcome for all parties especially the children is absolutely clear. Unbiased, direct but easy to listen to. I used her wisdom to change my own behaviour and reactions as I have zero control over the other parties. Life is much easier and less stressful using her strategies.
Ben
Yes! I want to make things different.
What now?
If the best format for you and your family is to participate in 1-1 individualised sessions, click Join Us NOW. Another option is the cost effective small group workshop.
Once you’ve decided which format suits you (and your budget), click Join Us NOW.
It really is that simple to change the way you and your children react, behave and interact.
If you’re one of those fortunate parents who have a great kid and you are looking for a way to deepen your already awesome bond, you’ve found it! Ensure your child will come to you with anything throughout their teen years – no matter what it is. The Circle of Security will help you TRULY connect in a deep way that enables a meaningful relationship with your child.
From The Blog
What Circle of Security ISN'T.
Circle of Security is many things, but here are some of the things it isn’t:
You may think it’s strange to have a section that tells you not to join us, but we are 100% committed to supporting families to raise securely attached children who enjoy deep connections with their parents. We want as many parents as possible who need this program to have access and if you’re with us for the wrong reason, or think it is something that it isn’t, there’s a family who missed out. All the groups are small, so that we can connect and learn from each other. Every parent needs to want to be there or they’re taking up the spot of another parent who needs the program. We want to work with families who want to work with us and make their relationship with their child deeper, stronger and more connected. So, if you are looking for any of the following, please choose a different program.
1. An easy, ‘tick-n-flick’ course to get your ex or the Court off your back. Please, unless you’re genuinely wanting to improve the relationship you have with your child (even if it’s already great!), don’t come to this course.
2. You will not learn how to dominate your child. You will not learn how to ignore negative behaviour and praise the behaviour you want to see. If you think you need a program like that, this isn’t the one for you.
3. A magic solution. This program absolutely works to create connection between children and parents. However, it won’t happen overnight. You absolutely can see change after just one session, but long lasting change takes a long term approach. If you’re looking for a quick fix, please, look elsewhere (that said, many parents report immediate change, but you do need to stick with it and keep evolving).
4. A course where you can blame everyone else. Circle of Security is about YOUR relationship with your child so you need to be able to look at what you’re doing, how you’re reacting and be honest with yourself. If you don’t think you have the ability to look inside yourself, then you should reconsider joining us.
As we said, we are 100% committed to supporting families. We know this program works. If you’re ready to connect with your child on a deeper level, Join Us NOW!
How is the course run?
Choose to access the course in any of the 3 formats:
1. Small groups of up to 12 parents, with sessions over 2 weeks. The greatest benefit of this delivery is not just that you can share and learn with other parents, but this is also the most affordable option.
2. One-to-one personalised sessions – the biggest benefit with this option is the ability to schedule the weekly sessions at a time that suits you. Each session is no longer than 90 minutes, so they’re easier to fit into your day. There are 8 sessions over 12 weeks.
3. Small groups of up to 12 parents as a 5 Star Luxury Retreat. There are 4 sessions over 4 days – choose either morning or afternoon sessions. The greatest benefit to choosing the Luxury Retreat is that you can either bring your children with you and have a mini-break (child care is available) and practise the things you learn so that when you come the next day, you’re able to discuss, problem solve and reflect on what is working and what needs more exploration. Alternatively, you can take the opportunity to spend some time on you – attend the course, relax, indulge, and go home reinvigorated and ready to create deeper connections with your child. If you do come alone, you may wish to consider adding the coaching package to support your journey once you’re home.
The Circle of Security Luxury Retreat is the premium package and absolutely the best way to discover and practise this program. Retreats are run at various times of the year, all over the world. The hardest part is choosing your preferred location!
What if nothing else worked?
Other parenting courses focus on dominating children and controlling their problem behaviour. If you’ve ever felt like you’re in a power struggle with your child, this program will totally change things.
Circle of Security focuses on the connection that is created with a secure attachment between parent and child.
If you have used sticker charts (proven not to work for children and sometimes, even encourage the negative behaviour we’re trying to change)such as naughty corner, thinking chair, time out or ‘ignoring the bad and praising the good’, you will find Circle of Security very different. It doesn’t matter whether your child is a newborn, 4yo, or 17yo. The strategies are effective for all relationships (yes, even romantic relationships)!
If you’re a parent who already has a really great kid, but you’re worried about maintaining that connection and relationship as they travel into and through adolescence, there is something in this program for you, too. Teenagers can be hard to connect with, they are suppose to move away from you and toward their friends. But what if they’re just grunting or constantly at sleep overs? How do you stay close? This program will show you what to do.
In sum, the Circle of Security was designed as an early intervention program, but its application has developed to encompass relationships throughout a child’s development and into adulthood. You can even use the strategies to connect with your partner, reconnect with a parent, or deepen the relationship you have with your best friend.
