Diamonds are Dirt Under Pressure
You’ll find there’s a common theme running through these blog posts – divorce and separation are hard. Yeah, yeah, you’ve told us! I hear you say. Or “Um, hello, preaching to the choir!”
What I want you to remember today and on other days when you find yourself in the dungeon, trudging away in the dark and lonely place that is sometimes co-parenting, is …
Diamonds are dirt under pressure.
Now I know that dirt isn’t just carbonised plant matter, but if we’re buried, we decompose and become dirt and eventually carbonise and become coal. So simplistically, dirt becomes coal + pressure = diamond. Got me?
Certainly! Here’s the sentence with added transition words:
“It’s corny, I know. It’s a cliche, I know. But you know what else? Furthermore, it’s true.”
If you’re religious you might believe that God only sends us what we can handle.
Your spiritual pledge might be “that which doesn’t kill me makes me stronger”.
Whether you’re spiritual or religious or not, diamonds are bright and shiny; furthermore, when polished, they are expensive, desired, and radiant.
You are a diamond in the making. Maybe you’re slogging away at this parenting gig. You’re alone, maybe you’re even lonely. Maybe your life is full of friends and love and fulfilment. Perhaps today is just one of those days where you feel like co-parenting is futile. If you’re feeling like it doesn’t matter what you do, or how you do it, that brown stuff always hits the fan eventually. However, remind yourself:
Diamonds are dirt under pressure.
Shiny, with flaws, coloured and white – diamonds are dirt under pressure.
You are a diamond. The pressure just makes you more valuable and of greater quality. It doesn’t have to be this hard; however, when it is – diamonds are dirt under pressure. They need the pressure to become who they are, who they’re going to be and who they’re needed to be. Just remember – you-re a diamond.
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